the reward for losing

how do you accept defeat?

first, you need to make sure that you're in a battle/competition, that you did all you can to win and you strived so hard to get what you deserved. second, you need to know when the fight is over. third, you need to recognize the difference between losing and winning. fourth, after knowing that you’re defeated, u need to take a moment to accept it . and fifth, you need to deal with it. you need to make a choice – either to whine all day and night or be happy despite the pain and grievances it caused you.

why do you need to make a choice? because if you don’t, you’ll be stranded in this journey.

when I was a kid, I was thwarted so many times. during those days, i normally used my remorse to push myself to become better in whatever field where I got defeated. then i’d always return to the battle for revenge. back then, I can’t seem to handle defeat the right way. I can’t seem to just give it up, accept the bitter truth of losing and move on. what i’d been doing before may not really be ideal but I have to admit that it somehow helped me become a stronger person. still, my old ways are not only not ideal, they’re also not advisable and are full of side effects.

so yeah… it doesn’t matter if you’re defeated this time. life doesn’t end when you lose one battle. it’s just getting’ started! so right now, immona pick up the broken pieces of myself and the remnants of my dreams and will try to rebuild them in another world which I’m just about to make.

…and when that world is fully created and successfully finished, I’ll let you all know so you can party with me. ;-)